There is always a lot of talk about resolutions at this time of year. It’s like we think because it’s a new year then things can be different, we can be different. But January 1st is just another day, and any day you can wake up and decide to do things differently. I confess that I have always loved having my birthday on New Year’s Day, simply because of the whole idea of the fresh start of a new year. I think, this year things will be different, I will finally transform myself into the person I want to be! Of course it usually doesn’t play out that way. The most life-changing decisions come at unremarkable times, sparked by circumstances and events rather than a calendar day. When I think of the most important changes I’ve consciously made in my life, the truth is that none are particularly romantic or dramatic, or happened in a single day. Who wants to hear about that? Or think about the reality that true change in who you are, or the life you have, usually takes effort, or at least some thought, on a daily basis. I haven’t made any official resolutions this year because the past few years my resolutions have been more like to do lists hovering over my head and nagging me to be better better better. I don’t want to feel bad about myself or my decisions, even though I do want to be better. I don’t want another item on my to do list, or another list of things that seem impossible to accomplish or just stress me out.
If I had to pick a resolution for this year it would be: ACCEPTANCE. For me, acceptance is more of a life lesson than something that is reasonable to accomplish in a year or check off a list, but I like the idea of holding that thought close and letting it shape my days.
Also: have more fun! This one doesn’t need any explaining, and if you think it does, then it should probably be on your list, too.